I believe AndSelf will allow you to do what you ask.
update example:
Given the following html:
<div id="1" class="testdiv">
<a href="#">test a</a>
<a href="#">test b</a>
</div>
<div id="2" class="testdiv">
<a href="#">test c</a>
<a href="#">test d</a>
</div>
This code gives only children (anchor tags in this case) a red frame:
<script language="javascript" type="text/javascript">
$('.testdiv').children().css('border','solid 1px red');
</script>
( andSelf()) div divs, divs - , :
<script language="javascript" type="text/javascript">
$('.testdiv').children().andSelf().css('border','solid 1px red');
</script>