You have received several broad, broad generalizations, but overall this is true. Usually this is not related to real server technology - for example, you can host PHP in IIS, but with page generation tools - scripting language and frameworks.
Using tools like Firebug and Yslow, you can see what is happening, and there are a lot of tips.
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